Steps
- Ask questions of any kind. Sometimes asking silly questions is the best way to boost confidence, and people greatly admire those who show no fear of being judged. You have nothing to prove to anyone; be silly, be spontaneous, have fun conversations. These are really good ways to prove to others that you are confident.
- Hold your head up high. Have tall, straight posture.
- Make eye contact. Don't look down or from side to side.
- When shaking hands, have a firm grip, but not too firm!
- Speak loud and clear. Think before you speak so you have a clear idea of what to say. If you tend to jumble words in an attempt to rush through what you're saying, slow down.
- Smile. Always show your pearly whites.
If you look like this (yes, it's silly, but you get the idea), then people have no choice but to believe in you, because they know that you believe in yourself!
- Laugh. Make it look like you are always having fun. Laugh at your mistakes, you'll seem more happy.
- Keep busy. Don't just stand around. Meet new people. Share a funny joke, join clubs, do social things.
- Take compliments gracefully by always smiling and saying a simple "thank you." If someone pays you a compliment, do not respond by putting yourself down.
- Be honest. People like you more if they feel they're able to trust you and you are able to trust yourself.
- Appreciate yourself for who you are. Acting in a confident manner will make you appear to be more confident, but it's also important to find value in yourself as an individual. This will give you real confidence. You are someone special, you have a beautiful smile, and you're good at lots of things! Make a list of these things for yourself, and remind yourself often of your great qualities.
Tips
- Don't try to impress people. The best advice anyone can ever give you is to live your own life. The harder you try to impress people the more unimpressed they'll become. Nobody admires the kiss up. Just go about your business and your social life will fall into place.
- Remember, even if you do not feel confident, no one else knows it. Fake it until you make it. Pretend to be confident and eventually you will.
- Remember to always look your best and feel good. Taking good care of yourself is important to your well-being. Your hygiene, attire, and attitude are very important parts of who you are, and you should keep these things healthy. By taking care of yourself, these actions will tell your mind that you are special and valuable, and this, in turn, will truly make you confident in yourself.
- Act like you don't care what other people think, even if you do. Acting like yourself will lead to full confidence.
- Remember that your honest concern, your innate convictions and the fountain of vitality within you always reach and enter the hearts of people. It is because of your own attachment to pettiness and superficial glamor and glitter that you underestimate yourself. So be sure that if you do soul searching and act accordingly people will surely think that you are confident. [Cf: Smiling Sun: Dr. Shriniwas Kashalikar]
- Sometimes when you act confident people get jealous and try to do what you do. Take this as a tip that what you are doing is working.
Warnings
- Do not be too loud, obnoxious or demanding. That is a turn off for many people.
- Don't cling to people and make them do all the leg work in a conversation. This will make them feel like you're dispensable
- Do not try arbitrarily to "make others think" that you are "confident". That will make people think, feel, and confirm that you are ridiculous rather than confident.
- Don't ever let anyone tell you you're not good enough because they're not any better.
- Don't over do the smiling. Some people say you have to smile all the time but that can come off as kind of creepy. Just do what comes naturally and smile at appropriate times.
- Don't be discouraged if you can't follow certain steps such as step #2 for instance. You don't have to have perfect posture to be respected.
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